Kristine
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Joined: Sep. 2006
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I think it's not unusual for anyone who did not wait until marriage and who is inclined to believe in that ideal to wish that they had... the grass is always greener emotionally, but I also think our society still puts too much emphasis on the pure/impure duality. (Example, a line from Shakespeare in Love: "A word of warning, she hath been plucked ere since. Takes a woman to know it." What utter rot. It does not "show!")
This is not a new idea, but the modern form of innocence/purity seems to be a lack of knowledge of tenderness. Certainly I wish that young people would exercise thought and planning (emotional as well as contraceptual) so that they can go into marriage, if that's what they wish, without already having children. I would settle for that.
If one's first time sucked, then I think the person is still a "virgin" in a way, and it is not a question of a great glass globe shattering with one act. I think the first time sucks anyway - I won't go TMI but some women have physical difficulties the first several times. The first time that it is special is your First Time, at least for me.
Of course, this is coming from me, who is faithful as a brick but with a roving eye (it really got crazy once I hit 40) and now a new member of the American Lovers Association! 
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