Fractatious
Posts: 103 Joined: May 2006
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Quote | You, as with others, seem to be under the impression that I think that no insults should ever be uttered on this board |
No I don't. Nor have I ever said that. This is NOT a formal debate. Therefore THIS does NOT afford constant monitoring. Quote | and hence that I am a hypocrite for insulting deadman |
If you are going to stress a point about behaviour, then keep within the boundaries of that behaviour. Simple. Otherwise it will rear up and bite you in the ass. "Do as I say, not as I do" Quote | We aren't here to rehash all those arguments, but rather to try and find a way of preventing such situations in the future.
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I was asking for solutions a ways back.. Quote | I'm appealling to Steve??? |
Well, you said:
Steve, I'm not sure that people have really grasped where the incivility was in the last couple of discussions. Let me explain from my point of view, at first as a bystander, and then secondly as the target. Found here: Link Quote | You may choose to suggest that the attack was reasonable - I disagree, and that is a debate for elsewhere. |
Ok, there is a lot presupposition as to what I supposed am doing, posting, claiming AND thinking. So I will lay this out to save further confusion.
On these message boards as with any message boards and/or chat group and/or email group, people who decide to engage in discussions need to take responsbility and accountability for themselves. Avocationist is more than articulate enough to speak for herself. Avocationist is more than proficient enough to debate this subject for herself. The mere fact that Avocationist is debating on the other thread, is adequate grounds to say that Avocationist knows what she is doing. Also, that Avocationist chose not to speak to those insulting her, shows that Avocationist actually has taken responsibility into her hands to decide what she will and will not do - and much credit to Avocationist on that score. Avocationist is also back debating again. Probably with no long term psychological effects.
Deadman is my partner (or SO as Ichyt calls him) and the only time I intervened on his dialogue was when he was called "Deadbeat" however, I credit him with his own personal accountability and responsibility not to cock-block his discussions with anyone on any board. Nor do I defend him - he's more than capable of doing that himself - however I will pick out certain things said - that don't synchronise - one of those being "deadbeat".
The sheer fact that this has escalated to the realms it has, is a controlling factor. Who can do what, when, where, to whom, and why, and who should sort it out. It should never have escalated this far.
So let me reiterate this:
1. Personal responsibility and accountability is needed by individuals who enter onto boards where debate is present - there are opposing sides, and where it is not a FORMAL debate.
2. Avocationist is a big girl, highly articulate, eloquent and possessing skills to debate. Not to diminish anything she has done - her break away has infused her to continue debating - making this discussion MOOT.
3. Louis has conducted himself in a manner which I find to be amicable, stressing what he will and will not tolerate. In doing so he has set down his boundaries. It is up to others to accept those boundaries or not. If they accept them, then obviously it will be on the understanding of those boundaries. The same applies to Dr. Lenny, Deadman and anyone else here. Yourself included.
4. I have read many things, and I noticed that Avocationist has done the same - has she replied to everything that has been insulting? No. Why? Because she has started to self-filter. Which she is doing again on the thread named after her.
Conclusion: The original topic is back in full swing, after Avocationists short vacation - she did mention she would be away for awhile. Obviously not long lasting and with no long term negative effects. Positions have been stated, made clear and thats more than anyone could ask for - boundaries were laid down by specific people. Also, people are NOT forced to log in. They are not FORCED to answer. Why they chose to, is solely their responsibility.
I hope that's made it more clearer. If not, ask, and I'll restate it again.
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