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fnxtr



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(Permalink) Posted: Dec. 01 2011,14:44   

Quote (Stephen Elliott @ Dec. 01 2011,12:19)
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Quote (fnxtr @ Nov. 29 2011,17:55)
Anecdote.

I've spent fairly long periods of time relying on my spouse for financial support.

She just says "Well, you'd do it for me."

I have a hard time not saying "That's different. I'm the man."

:-/

Do you feel bad about that? I don't think that you should*. There is one Hell of a difference between an emotional response and a considered one.



*I am assuming that you don't try to justify it to be wrong for a woman to financially support her spouse.

No, I think we're in this together.

But it seems there's some programming that says I'm supposed to be The Provider. I've described not working as feeling unmanned.  

I understand cognitively that that's just silly, but that understanding hasn't reached the effective level yet. Dunno why not.

I feel it too.


Makes no sense? Absolutely.

Try and stop it? Betcha can't.

Fortunately I have in-laws and a step-daughter in frequent need of assistance, so I still get to be The Man sometimes. :-)

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