Joined: June 2006
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I've spent fairly long periods of time relying on my spouse for financial support.
She just says "Well, you'd do it for me."
I have a hard time not saying "That's different. I'm the man."
Do you feel bad about that? I don't think that you should*. There is one Hell of a difference between an emotional response and a considered one.
*I am assuming that you don't try to justify it to be wrong for a woman to financially support her spouse.
No, I think we're in this together.
But it seems there's some programming that says I'm supposed to be The Provider. I've described not working as feeling unmanned.
I understand cognitively that that's just silly, but that understanding hasn't reached the effective level yet. Dunno why not.
I feel it too.
Makes no sense? Absolutely.
Try and stop it? Betcha can't.
Fortunately I have in-laws and a step-daughter in frequent need of assistance, so I still get to be The Man sometimes. :-)
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